“That guy really ruined my day”. “I hate this place. Can’t wait to go home”. “This traffic is horrible. What a horrible way to start my day.” “Oh wow. I wasn’t picked for the promotion! Well, my day is shot!”
Do any of these sound familiar? Why is it that most people always place the blame of having a bad day on outside circumstances and other people? Not fully realizing that the “sway” of the day depends completely on our attitudes going into it. Here’s the thing: just like I mentioned in my book, The CEO Effect, we create our day as we go along. I know there may be people out there in this world who would disagree with my statement. However, allow me to further explain what I mean. Yes, things may happen throughout your day that you may find upsetting and undesirable. But that can’t be helped. What does determine the rest of the day is how you respond. Everyone gets 24 hours a day. No more, no less. And life, in general, is nothing more than a mirror. Whatever you decide to show it, life will reflect it back to you. How you choose to live out your 24 hours is determined by your overall attitude of the day.
In reality, there is no such thing as a “bad” day. There are just “days”. Our attitude mixed with our mental state determines if it goes smoothly or rough. So how do you deal with the boss who is determined to make your time at work a living hell? Simple. Allow him or her to speak, and move on with your day as though nothing happened. Remember this: YOU CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE. If you decide to brew over what they did or said to you, you are doing nothing but wasting precious thoughts on someone not worthy to even be in them. Let me tell you something: getting angry at someone else and allowing them to take up the majority of your thoughts is like drinking your own poison and expecting the other person to receive the effects. You’re only killing yourself. I can guarantee you that they aren’t even thinking of you when it’s all said and done.
Remember these points when stepping out the door and beginning your day:
-You cannot control the actions of other people. All you can do is control your responses. It doesn’t matter what happens to you. What does matter is what you choose as a response.
-Try not to get into pointless arguments. Seriously, it wastes your precious time. You get no prize for winning. If they are wrong, let them be. Every man and woman has every right to be just as wrong as they want to be. Let it go. Move on with your day.
-What others think of you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Mind yours and watch how life unfolds for you.
-Concentrate on more positives throughout your day. When you do this, opportunities begin to show up more and more.
-Laugh throughout most of your day. Laughter is the medicine that can heal any bad feeling you may get from dealing with circumstances and people. And it brings more positive people and circumstances your way.
-Realize that God made you in His image. Life happens to all of us. Have faith that what we go through is nothing more than another adventure or lesson to learn. It will be alright.